words from within

It's not you, it's me... part 1

2012-01-28T10:04:00.008Z

I know this is a very clichéd phrase that we’ve all heard in movies, soaps and the like, but at times instead of seeming like an easy way to break up with someone it actually does harbour some truth. Well today, I’m not going to be focusing on the phrase as a whole, but instead home in on the last part ‘it’s me’.

Over the next few blog posts, God willing, I want to focus on ‘the self.’ Not in any psychological sense but just to give some inspirational, motivational and encouraging words and tips, with Biblical support, on ‘the self’, in terms of picking yourself up after a fall, learning to be happy and content, becoming whole, attaining your peace of mind and soul; just various things that can help you and me both, to grow as individuals and to learn new things about ourselves too.

Ok… so, it will help us grow and learn about ourselves, but some of you may still be thinking why all of these things are important?

Well, these are our lives. God ultimately is the chief director, but we are the vessels. We carry out the parts and I’m sure that you, as well as me, want to have the best parts ever and enjoy our roles to the fullest, but we must admit that sometimes, this proves to be difficult. Very difficult in fact at times, especially if the script that’s in front of us at that particular time has a difficult situation within it.

But not to worry, all things work out for good for those who love Him, so I think I shall begin with my first topic: Getting up after being down. Hope this post encourages you *smiles*

We all feel down from time to time, we feel discouraged, we get hurt by the people close to us, there are even times that we feel down and we don’t have a reason for feeling down. This is life. There are times we are sad, there’s no need to be ashamed about it, even Jesus felt down at one point, but the important thing is dealing with that feeling. Overcoming it, getting over the situation and moving on from it. Not just resting in that same emotional disposition for a long time, allowing it to grow, fester and take over your life; that is when it becomes a problem, because how can you be genuinely happy or move on in life when you still bear the hurt of previous things? Like I said it is difficult but it’s possible to be happy and to let go and to move on.

Imagine this. You’re 7 years old, playing in the park with your friends happily, you fall over, cut your knee, it’s bleeding and everything, you’re really upset and it really hurts. You become even more upset because you realise you can’t play for a while, you have to stay at home and wait for your knee to get better. This is the healing period. After a week or so, your knee is fine, you have a scar but the wound is healed so you can now go back out and play and to top it off you get to show your friends your scar.

‘Oh wow Claire what happened to your leg?!’

‘I fell over in the park and it was bleeding and everything but it doesn’t hurt anymore, come on let’s play!’

Claire’s over it all. Good.

Imagine now if Claire, our lovely example, after her knee healed, decided that she still wanted to be upset because she fell down? Imagine if she still just wanted to be sad, staying at home, watching boring kids daytime TV? (because it doesn’t get interesting until around 3:00pm) Who is she hurting the most? Yes, her friends will be sad because she’s not coming out to play, but she’s hurting herself more! What exactly is she trying to achieve by dwelling on the fact that she hurt her leg. Yes she hurt herself, but she’s healed now. She can get up and go out again but she wants to stay in this sad sad state. Why?? This is the main point I’m trying to get out there, don’t stay down. Are you defeated? No you’re not. You are victorious in all things and God in His infinite glory will never take you through something He knows you’re not capable of coping with. Everything we go through, we go through, not only to help others when they go through it, but because He knows we can go through it and be champions. It’s not the end.

Do not allow the spirit of defeat, sorrow and despair, to dwell within you. It really and truly eats a person up inside.

I know the example of Claire falling over is very basic and simple, and life does tend to hit us harder than that, but I hope you can grasp what I’m trying to get across.

Ok so, how can I get out of feeling down?

• Surround yourself with people that will encourage you and lift you up, not those that will join in your self-pity party and make you feel worse.

There’s a difference between a friend that will come round, cry with you, meaning that yes they’ve acknowledged your pain, but who will still take you by the hand and say ‘you will get through this’, and a friend that will come round, cry with you and say ‘this is so bad, I don’t know what you’re going to do, you’re in such a mess, I’m so glad this is not me I don’t know what I would do.’

*Proverbs 27:17- as iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.*
*Proverbs 27:9- ointment and perfume delight the heart, and the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel.*

• Have hope,

Hope is something you can’t see. Hope is a feeling. According to dictionary.com, hope is ‘the feeling that, what is wanted can be had, or that events will turn out for the best.’ David, in Psalms 42, talks about how he was downcast in his soul and how he had cried in the morning and in the night but he said that he will put his hope in God. Referring back to my last post, He trusted in God, whom in the passage he called his ‘saviour and defender’, to bring him out of the situation that he was in. He had hope; the feeling that things will turn out for the best.

*Job 14:7- for there is hope for a tree, if it is cut down, that it will sprout again and that its tender shoots will not cease.*

• Remind yourself that your sadness won’t be around forever and that the ends is greater than the means

This is something one of my best friends always tells me and it’s so true. The beginning may not always be what you thought it would be, but by the end you’ll be in a better position that you wouldn’t have even imagined.

*Ecclesiastes 7:8- the end of a thing is better than its beginning, the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.*
*Job 8:7- though your beginning was small, yet your latter end would increase abundantly.*

• Be assured that you are not alone- you have an Eternal father who cares and who is your strength!

*Psalms 73:26- my mind and body may grow weak but God is my strength, He is all I ever need.*

• Pray and search the scriptures

It’s not always easy to pray especially when feeling you’re down. You either, don’t feel like doing anything or you may feel as though God has deserted you, but just try and pray. In terms of searching the scriptures, there’s so much truth in the Word and it just uplifts the soul.

*Jeremiah 15:16- ...your word was to me the joy and rejoicing of my heart…*
*James 5:16- ...the effective fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.*

• Know that whatever it is will make you a stronger person!

*Ecclesiastes 7:3- sorrow is better than laughter for by a sad countenance the heart is made better.*

(It’s not saying we should be sad all the time and not laugh, just that through being sad we get stronger)

There are so many more examples I can give, but I’ll be here forever! Lol. Guys I’m sure you get the drift. Life is hard enough as it is, we don’t want to make it tougher for ourselves by dwelling on things for too long and making ourselves feel worse. Like I said, we want to make this life as enjoyable as we can.

One translation of Proverbs 17:22 says ‘being cheerful keeps you healthy; it is slow death to be gloomy all the time.’

Key points to remember:
• Remember that when we get out of the little sad period it is important that we do not cling to it. This is emphasised in Isaiah 43:18, ‘Do not cling to events of the past or dwell on what happened long ago.’

And finally…

• Remember guys ‘weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning’ (Psalm 30:5) No matter how long your ‘night’ period may last for, it’s a matter of fact that after night comes day so be rest assured that you will get through, you will get up again and you will have joy!

Be happy, smile always.

Miss Bee
bee.inspired@hotmail.com

Trusting Him... part 1

2012-01-23T10:04:00.002Z

First and foremost, God is just so great. 

It is so hard at times to trust in the people that we see on a day to day basis let alone trusting in what we cannot physically see and hold, but to put our trust in God is literally one of the best decisions we can make in our lives.

Question: Why should I put my trust in God?

There are so many reasons as to why one should put their trust in the Lord and within this piece some of these reasons will be shared. I will only mention a few of them though, because if I were to mention them all, then you’ll be reading this blog post forever lol!

• God is not a man that He should lie (Numbers 23:19)

This is a great reason I feel for putting your trust in God because unfortunately, in this world, there are webs of lies and deceit everywhere. Some people just love to lie. There are deep lies that can break up families and there are other lies that may not be as deep and profound, but can still cause disappointment and hurt. Why let yourself go through all of this? Constantly trusting in someone to do something for you, to then be constantly let down by that person? Don’t get me wrong, sometimes there are genuine extenuating circumstances as to why one can’t carry out what they said they would do, but there are other times when it is just down to sheer human laziness.

If you carry on reading this verse it says that ‘Has He said and will He not do?’ This just emphasising further that whatever God has said concerning your life will come to pass! If He’s said it, He will definitely do it! Whatever promise God has made to you, yes even though it may take a while to manifest, just hold on and be patient because it says that God is not a man that He should lie (this is further emphasised in Hebrews 6:18 where is says ‘it is impossible for God to lie’) and He will surely bring His Word concerning you as an individual to fruition. So just trust Him! We need to be aware that God works on His own timing. He won’t give us something that He’s promised us at the wrong time because He knows us better than we know ourselves, and if we have something at the wrong time, it could just bring destruction and ruin. There is a time and season for everything (Ecclesiastes 3:1) so just keep cool and pray for patience. Good things come to those that wait.

• Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him and He shall bring it to pass (Psalm 37:5)
• Commit your works to the Lord and your thoughts will be established (Proverbs 16:3)

If you read this, it could appear so easy! One could think all I have to do is put what I want to do in God’s Hands and trust in Him then all my dreams will come true. Yes simply that is what is being said, but I’m sure you’re all aware of the saying ‘it’s easier said than done.’ It says ‘commit your way to the Lord’, not just dash what you want to do to God but to commit it to Him. There are many definitions for the verb to commit but one of them I liked was ‘to entrust’*. Commit is a very strong word. It comes with a lot of emotions because if you think about it, to commit something to someone would be hard, because whatever it is you are entrusting that person with will definitely be of extreme emotional value to you. Why are you going to commit something to someone that is capable of changing their mood in a split second when you can commit it all to God who never changes? (Hebrews 13:8) I feel that it is so important to commit things to God because I don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow but God does. I want to be able to commit things into hands that I know will make whatever it is I’ve entrusted in them, flourish! Learn to commit everything to God. See I said learn, because it is a process, it does honestly take time to wholly commit something but it is possible.

For example, God I commit my health and my families health into your hands. I trust in you that even though sickness may come, you will see us through and the good health you promised us will come to pass in our lives. Amen.

God I commit my work into your hands. You said that whatever a man sows he will reap (Galatians 6:7). I am sowing seeds of hard work and I trust in you that everything I am doing will not be put to waste. Amen.

Commit all things to God: your relationships, education, children, finances, and future. Just everything. You can't go wrong.

Question: I want to trust in God, but I feel as though God wouldn’t want me to trust in Him, because I’ve just done so much wrong.

This is something that a lot of people go through. They want to get close to God, they want to commit their way to Him and trust Him but they feel that because of all the things they’ve done, they can’t get close to God. They feel guilty. No. No. No. These are the dirty lies of your mind. These are the thoughts that hold you back. You as an individual need to be strong to fight against such thoughts and forgive yourself! If you continue to think and believe in such things then you will never move on and up in life. It’s not physical things that we struggle with. That’s not the battle that we need to fight against. You need to fight against the things that go on in your mind and in your soul. You guys know I always always talk about the mind but I only do so because it’s so vital to living a happy life! Your mind can cripple you! But anyway, don’t think that because you’ve made so many mistakes, God won’t accept you and you can’t trust in Him. God is rich in mercy (Ephesians 2:4) Mercy is compassion and showing pardon to an offender.* God is forgiving. He’s already forgiven you, you don’t need to burn no sacrifice, your heart itself is a sacrifice and acknowledging that you’ve done wrong. Saying sorry and showing remorsefulness is all God needs (Psalm 51:17)

We all make mistakes guys. All of us, so please, no harbouring unforgiveness towards yourself (and others). God wants you to trust in Him, because He wants you to experience the good things He’s said concerning your life so stop holding yourself back and just go ahead and trust Him.

I could go on and on but I’m going to have to round up here. So many more reasons, so much more to say but I think I’ve made my point. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t trust anybody on earth, of course have your trusted few, but ultimately put your trust in The One above. The One who never disappoints, never leaves, never lies, always loves, always makes true and you can’t go wrong.

Miss Bee xoxox

e-mail me if any questions!
bee.inspired@hotmail.com
*all definitions from dictionary.com

Some thoughts for the New Year...

2012-01-05T14:16:00.001Z

Everyone is different you can't use the way one person has acted towards you to evaluate how the other people will. Some people are quiet, they don't show their feelings but it doesn't mean that they don't care. Some people talk a lot but it doesn't mean that they care more. You as an individual need to be patient to learn the way in which the people around you show their feelings towards you, and you also need to learn how to mesh both of your different ways of communicating together to create a beautifully orchestrated symphony.

Learn how to come to a healthy balance, don't force anything, and just let it flow. Be honest and be open from the get go. Trust me. It prevents heartache and emotional distress. Honesty and truth hurt, we all know, but it is better to have a small cut than to be living in a lie and have to heal a gaping wound. Don’t commit yourself to something that you’re not ready for, it’s not fair on you and it’s not fair on the other person either.

If you can, pray together. It strengthens the relationship as well as you both as individuals. Anything founded on the Word of the Lord will forever remain. Yes I know, trials will come, tests will happen but nothing can split apart what the Lord has ordained.

Learn to love yourself. If you are content within, with whom you are and you know where you are going in life then you won't need to look for contentment, fulfilment and a sense of belonging in other people because you are already happy. If you are already content then other people will only add to your joy but they won't make it. If you are not happy within, then you will end up going to another person, hoping for them to provide you with happiness and when you realise they can't give you what you desire, you become frustrated and then cause issues in the relationship. It is also unfair on the other person as they will be trying their best to give all that they can.

It is hard to love somebody that doesn’t love themself, because all the love that you are giving will not be enough for them. If this is your situation, you need to know that you are not the person’s Saviour, only God can save and deliver someone and give them the love that they truly long for within. You just need to pray for that person, that one day; their eyes and their heart will be opened to see that the love they need is actually within them.

Don't get into anything you are not physically, emotionally and spiritually prepared for. If you are going to compromise your beliefs and what you stand for, then is it really the right thing for you? If you know you are not yet emotionally strong and that you would crumble to pieces, then is this really what you want? Be patient and wait until you know you are ready. You know yourself. Don’t need to be rushing because everyone else is rushing.

I know we are all meant to share and love and everything and I’m not disputing that because it’s true that’s what we should do, but there are times when we need to be selfish in terms of your heart. Your heart needs to be guarded ferociously with everything you have, because it is out of your heart that the issues in your life spring forth.

If you let someone into your heart that does not appreciate you, respect you, care about you, then what do you think is going to happen? Ok yeah, you may smile in public but who’s the person that will be crying by themselves in the midnight hour? Do you understand what I mean? Just guard your hearts please. It’s not a happy meal toy; you can play willy nilly with.

Anchor yourself firmly in the faith that life will get better. The trials you go through now are only a means of making you stronger. The sickness and ill health that you may be facing will heal in time. Be patient and hope for things to come. We can’t see hope, because who hopes for things they can see, you hope for the future so keep persevering but remember to take it easy. One day at a time. Rome was not built in a day. You are only human. Do not cause yourself to have unnecessary hypertension. Yes work hard, but work smartly also*

It is well guys, God is forever in control.

Happy New Year,

Miss Bee xx

*quote taken from my friend Bola Prestige

Just a little bit of encouragement....

2011-12-04T10:38:00.006Z

Hey guys!

One needs to be pretty tough to survive in this world because it is definitely not easy. Every day presents a new challenge or a new decision one needs to make... Here are a few pointers just for encouragement!

Mistakes are going to be made in life. It's inevitable. The real challenge here is what you are going to take from that mistake?? You can't beat yourself up about it forever, that's no good for you and also the people around you. Why? Well because you will always be feeling down and you being down affects your friends too you know. You need to be able to learn from your mistake and strive not to repeat it again. 'But it's hard....’ yes I know, 'we are only humans, we are emotionally led beings.' Yes I know this too, but I also know that He that is within you is greater than He who is in the world and you can do allllllll things through Christ who strengthens you.

Your mind- I know I always refer back to your mind and your thoughts but the only reason why I do this is because it's so important! You know when your family keep on repeating the same thing over and over it's because it's paramount that you know it, heed to it, embed it in your life, so that's why I'm going to talk about your mind again.

I've been listening to a lot of Joyce Meyer recently, she deals a lot with teaching one how to deal with their thoughts, feelings, emotions (if you want to check her out go to www.joycemeyer.org) and in plain and simple terms what her teachings come down to is the fact that 'you are what you think'. Same way 'you are what you eat’, we all know this phrase very well, 'you are what you think.' What you allow to dwell in your mind, soul and spirit is what you will become. 'Out of the heart is what a man speaks', you say what you think and we all know that the tongue is very important as it is the medium through which people say blessings and in the same sentence kill them too. Watch your thoughts guys and your words too!

Positivity is key! Yes I know it is hard when things look bleak around you, when there's pile loads to get through, when there's family problems, financial situations, personal struggles, friendship and relationship issues but dwelling in self sorrow and pity and all of that won't help you. Yes, sometimes, I won't lie, you just need to switch off your phone and chill alone, reflect, maybe even cry because yes it's good to cry and let it all out, but you need to remember that you have to pick yourself up again, get it together, brush all the dust off and get on with life! Don't dwell on whatever it is, move on from it!

Time is also key! Time doesn't stop just because you're having a bad day. Best believe while you're there crying people are building the foundation of their dreams. You don't want to be left behind now do you? When everyone else is fulfilling their destiny and you are just watching from the side-lines, cheering and clapping. What is that all about? No please and thank you, get it together!! You know what you need to do just ask God the Father for the strength to continue and He will surely provide. Amen.

Remember your family and your TRUE friends that are out there. They love you, they support you, they are there for you to help you in all ways that they can! (Please please please do not be there thinking that everyone that is smiling at you is your friend. Ask for the spirit of discernment to be able to discern who is for you and who is against you. We will discuss this at a later date) But yes, please know this guys, you are not alone! No one is telling you to go through your struggles by yourself! No man is an island; everybody needs help at one stage in their life or another. God has blessed us with family, friends, and loved ones to help us get through life. Jesus had friends too you know. So remember they are there for you.

No one wins a war by lying down, you need to fight. No one wins a race by standing still, you need to run. No one passes an exam just by looking at the exam paper, you need to actually pick up the writing apparatus and write. Do you get my drift here? You need to be able to put the effort in, to get the results. You reap what you sew. There's no complaining 'oh they always get the opportunities blah blah blah' what are you doing to get them? Complaining for one and that's not going to get you anywhere.

But that's all for today, keep on striving guys! Put in the work and it will pay off! Be strong! Be happy! It is well! Put your trust in Him and He won't let you down. That’s a promise 

Lots of loveeee,

Miss Bee xoxoxo

Hang on :)

2011-09-20T07:16:00.002+01:00

Hey guys,

I know it has been a while since the last post but I am currently working on something much much bigger lol, not too sure when you will all be able to see it yet but it is working progress and God is in control.

In the mean time, thank you for all your love, support and encouragement. I appreciate it and don't forget that 'weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning'. Psalm 30:5

God is in control of everything and despite many of the circumstances that we may find ourselves in, it is all working out for the greater good.

Remember that there is no testimony without a test and that even when you may walk through the valley of the shadow of death, which can also be the valley of the shadow of fear, anxiety, stress, sickness, heartache, emotional unease, bullying, temptation anything, God is there with you guiding you, holding you with His right hand.

Stay strong! Stay rooted in Him. It is very very hard and at times, we fall by the wayside but it is the best foundation to stand and build upon in this very unstable world.

Stay happy guys, it will be well.

Lots of love,

Miss Bee xxx

p.s. i'll try and post little things like this regularly :)

Lessons of a young lady 1

2011-06-23T00:51:00.003+01:00

Hey guys!

So in the past year I've learnt a lot about myself! It's been quite a journey if anything to say the least. The people that I thought would be in my life forever and ever are people that I've realised were only supposed to be in my life for a season.

I learnt that due to my naivety, and inexperience with the world and worldly matters, I thought as a child because in actual fact I was younger in a thinking sense, and I only knew what existed around me at that moment in time. Even though I thought I did, I didn't think realistically about how certain things would help to shape or define my future, whether they would be a hindrance to it or whether they would help it grow. I didn't use my spiritual eyes to discern and determine what impact this would have on my life, I just thought in a little perfect bubble that yes I want things to go this way and that things would go that way.

It was so much more than a reality shock I faced! Not only was I faced with friendship situations changing, but also the second year of university with which bought it's own stress, a flat which had the worst landlords ever I can assure you and certain family situations regarding health, but I was also trying to stay grounded in my faith and get back on track after a lot of compromising in the previous few months.

To say the least my emotions were literally up and down like a yoyo. One minute I could be so happy and optimistic about my future and just hold on to the hope that God has a great plan in store for me, but the next minute I could be so down and 'depressed' thinking about past situations, feeling guilty, feeling worthless, like nothing good was going to ever come out of my life and that it was no point me trying to do anything.

I know they are two extremes but that's how it was. I had to learn to take control of my mind and this is something that I have previously wrote on but it is so important! It is what you dwell on that will come out of you!! It's still a battle that I am fighting on a daily basis because I need to believe that there is a good work within me that God will see to completion, I need to believe that even though my situations may not seem as though everything is fine, that God will sort it out for me and most importantly I need to believe that this is my personal relationship with Christ and that I can not compare myself to lady x's or mr y's relationship with God. I must not bring myself down because maybe I do not seem as 'righteous' as the next person or that I do no go to church as much or do all these other things.

In actual fact, God is looking at my heart and I have the assurance that He sees my efforts and He sees me actively trying to draw close to Him so that He can draw close to me.

I've learnt a lot and by the grace of God, with my summer holidays now here, I'll be posting up some of these lessons, sharing with you how God has really and truly been my strength and my hope.

It is well guys, let's keep strong and hold on to the faith that He is able and will bring us out of any situation that we find ourselves in and give us the grace in order to resist things that come our way and bring us down.

Lots of love, take care and stay blessed,

Be happy!

Miss Bee xxx

Morning Prayer

2011-02-22T09:24:00.003Z

Dear God,

Please help us to take control of our minds and help us no longer be captive to the negative thoughts and feelings that repress us. May we be confident in the knowledge that we can do all things through you* and despite the many challenges that come our way we will finish the race the we started victoriously!

May we trust in you and always know that you are the firm foundation and the rock that we stand on. May we be aware that yes even though we may walk through the valley of the shadow of death** and that we may at times pass through the fires, the deep waters*** and other testing times, that you are with us guiding us with your right hand.

May your hedge of protection always be around us, so that we are aware that no harm shall befall us****, when we wake in the morning may we smile, rejoice and be glad because this is the day that you have made,***** may your glory shine through us and may we excel in all things that come our way.

May your presence continuously surround us and may you never depart from us Lord God. When we cry may you be the hand that wipes away our tears, when we are cold, may your embrace be the one that keeps us warm, when we are scared and alone, may you be there to reassure us and let us know that you will always be there, when we need help, may you be our Saviour.

Thank you Father for this opportunity you have given us. Thank you always.

Amen.

Have a good day guys! :D

* Phillippians 4:13
** Psalm 23:4
***Isaiah 43:2
**** Psalm 91:10
***** Psalm 118:24

Take control of your mind!

2011-02-18T08:33:00.001Z

Sometimes does it ever feel as if you are going mad? As if they are so many thoughts in your mind, it could just overload and you could have a mental or emotional breakdown? I feel like this a lot of the time, so if you do feel like this then you’re not alone.

Sometimes my thoughts get the better of me and they have the ability to take me to a place where I don’t want to be. It’s of upmost importance to try and gain control of your thoughts and when people say think positive things they really do mean it and it really does make sense.

The reason I found, that we can be our own worst enemies is because of the thoughts that we have towards ourselves, we tell ourselves that we’re losers, that we’re weird, not good enough, not pretty enough, that we’re not smart, that we’re terrible people because of what we’ve done. We tell ourselves that I will never be as good as so and so, or this teacher doesn’t like me, I will never be able to get this and that, I mean come on!

Yes I know at times we need to be tough on ourselves so that we don’t procrastinate but to talk in such lowly terms about ourselves, no wonder, we feel down and unhappy.

I’m personally, taking an active step this year to try and think in a way that uplifts my soul and my spirit; I refuse this year to be a product of the negative thoughts of my mind. I refuse for the negative thoughts that I have, to take control of who I am.

I am reassured that as a child of God, I am an overcomer, I am victorious and I am worthy to be called God’s daughter, God’s child.

I know that people in this world will not accept me for who I am, but I have the assurance that my Father in Heaven has already accepted me and will never turn His back on me.

Why don’t you try and take this step too? I don’t know about you but I cannot go through an emotional turmoil like I did last year, that took away too much from me but God is a restorer and He shall restore to us all, that which we have lost. Amen.

Bernie :)

It'll turn out fine in the end..

2010-12-29T13:04:00.006Z

This world and its many pressures, this life with its many ups and downs, when the tears drop and there's no one there to wipe them away, or when the wounds from the past open up and begin to bleed profoundly without any warning, what do you do? Who do you turn to?

When day after day after day the hurdles just keep on coming up, you're jumping them, you definitely are, but there just seems to be a never ending track line of hurdles and it seems like you're the only one running, there's no one on your team to pass the baton on to so it seems like you're alone, what do you do? Who do you turn to?

When it seems as though you've lived for so long, worked for so hard for things but in reality have accomplished nothing. When it seems as though the mistakes that you've made never seem to want to let you be free and keep coming back to haunt you, what do you do? Who do you turn to?

When the people you love and look up to begin to no longer appear as the people you thought they were, when reality kicks in and tells you that this is the real world, there are no perfect things, all of the make believe stuff were mere childhood fantasies, what do you do? Who do you turn to?

When it seems as though all your hopes and dreams are only hopes and dreams and will never be real, when situations that you thought were fine just crumble right in front of your face, when your heart feels heavy with unspeakable pain and it feels like everyday you’re fighting, struggling, wrestling. What do you do? Who do you turn to?

It’s not been easy for Camilla and of course faith in God has been doubted many many many times, but in the midst of all of the emotional troubles and even the physical troubles that manifest daily in her life, that presence of God, that knowing right in the back of her mind that there is someone there that does care, there is someone there that is fighting on her behalf, that does know her future and does not think any bad thoughts nor wants any bad things to happen to her, has in actual fact helped. She may not own a bible, she may not even go to church but all of that doesn’t mean that she can’t feel the presence of God. In her heart even though the reality of the matter is that things are very bad, she knows that the end of a thing is better than its beginning, she knows that even though she’s facing all of these trials, one day, the smile she will smile, will not be forced, will not be trying to hide the tears, will not be fake, but it will be a smile of true joy, true feeling of happiness and all these things that she once felt, she will recount them to help the lives of others who feel similar to how she once did.

Yes, this is a world with many pressures, this is a life with many ups and downs, but it’s all not in vain. So what do you do and who do you turn to? You stay strong; try not to fret too much. Try and keep the faith and believe that God, who brought you to where you are now, will not leave you stranded. It’s hard and you may think “yeah but you don’t know what is happening” but it’s either you defeat the stresses of this life or you let them defeat you. Always try and keep a clear head so you can make the right decisions and when you’re in a state of heightened emotions just take it easy and remember that you’re not alone.

Keep on running that race, your gold meal is on the way.

The Fire (part 1)

2010-09-27T13:17:00.002+01:00

She wants to extinguish the flames but instead, unknowingly, she adds more fuel. Her words do not seem to help the situation, they seem to aggravate it more, irritate more, and grate under the skin more. Is it because what she says is the truth and the truth is something that they are not willing to hear? The truth is something that they want to keep hidden, that they do not want to face? The things that she thought would make it better are in fact the very same things that are making it worse and keeping this fire alight. But is it her fault? Did she mean to start to this fire? Did she mean to hurt the ones that are the closest to her?

The blaze keeps growing. Every second, every minute, every hour, everyday, burning everything that’s in its path, not caring for what it destroys, for it is a selfish, evil, twisted, ugly, dirty black fire, that burns away love, burns away joy, burns away peace and burns away the smiles. The smiles have now been replaced with straight faces, fake smiles only for the public to see so that they may think that everything is ok, but the reality of the situation is that the cracks beneath the cement, the cracks beneath the icing and the cherry on cake are beginning to appear, are beginning to show forth and the public can see the truth that is hidden behind the lies.

The truth that they thought would stay within the depths of their four walls, the secrets that they thought would stay hidden, that destroyed them, that possibly began the fire is now out and open for the world to see. They can no longer hide, so instead they blame each other and the heat of the fire becomes unbearable, their skin darkens, becoming rough, harsh and unattractive, the radiant glow that once shone from their faces has been replaced with a gloom stricken frown. Dark, red, eyes with big black bags begin to appear. Lips dry and cracked, dehydrated and crusty make their place known.

The tears that are no longer able to fall from their eyes now fall from their heart, small red droplets leak from the tiny but sharp incisions that are marked on the organ that if stopped, will stop life for them. They bleed out for love, bleed out for attention, and bleed out to be held. They are hurting, hurting so badly, that their chests begin to heave, they struggle to breathe, they cling to their throats gasping for air, the blaze has grown more than when they last noticed, there is smoke everywhere, everything is dark, no one can see, screams are swallowed and suffocated by the raging sounds, the smoke fills their lungs, they thought they could hide and no one would know but they didn’t realise that it is the smoke from the fire that kills first…..

Sleeping with a broken heart- I think not.

2010-06-17T20:01:00.002+01:00

Yes it is secular song but the title of the song is something that a lot of people go through and experience. People too often give their hearts away too easily to the first person that seems to take a genuine interest in them and it’s not until after, they have given everything that they have that they realise that the person didn’t necessarily want them just the things that they could offer.I know that there are a lot of connotations behind what I am writing but no I am not just talking about sex, there are so many other things that one could give someone apart from sex, but that’s not my main topic today…

Your heart is so important guys, it is not only one of the main organs in your body that allows for you to live, but it is the place where a lot of our dreams, secrets, fears, hopes and everything resides. In the Bible, it tells us to guard our hearts with all diligence for out of it, flows good or bad*. It is what you let into your heart that will come out of you. It is what you let happen to heart that will end up either making or breaking you.

For example, you let someone into your life on a deep emotional level, they become everything to you, they hurt you, intentionally or even unintentionally and you haven’t forgiven them. So now you begin to feel resentment and hatred. Whether you believe it or not that resentment and hatred will begin to seep through your character no matter how much you try to hide it. Your presence will no longer bring about sunshine and joy but negativity and hopelessness.

You can’t be giving your heart freely like that to everyone guys. There’s a difference between showing brotherly love and then just letting someone use you for your kindness and generosity. I know there are a lot of people out there that have a friend that they really want to help and they will do anything for that friend but there comes a time when, you need to remember that you are no-ones saviour. Only God is the saviour and only He can truly help someone to change.

You can be used as a vessel to aide the change but you, yourself can not change someone. It’s up to them to change themselves and that will only happen when they are ready and when they have realised themselves that they don’t want to live in the same way that they are living now.

I know it may hurt, because you will have put in endless and endless amounts of effort and everything else into trying to help them and your heart may be hurting and you may be feeling that you don’t just ever want to try and help anyone again or even love anyone again but don’t lose hope, at the end of the day, all the love and kindness you have shown has not been wasted, you have planted a seed and even if it’s not you that will help to blossom that seed, one day, maybe not tomorrow or in 6 months time, but one day you will definitely see the beautiful flower that grew from the seed that you planted.

So in the mean time, fix up yourself and look to the future. There are so many things that you could be doing, so much that life has to offer to you, don’t just be sitting in your room with the curtains closed and be crying to yourself. There’s no time for a self pity party, but there’s definitely a lot of time for your own personal growth and development, so stop this broken hearted behaviour because ladies and gentlemen, you’re young, beautiful, handsome, talented and many other things and the world is truly your oyster!

Bee Inspired! Smile always be happy

Miss Bee

*Proverbs 4:23 – Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.

'Teach me to be faultless'

2010-04-27T18:05:00.003+01:00

Forgiving others is a topic that a lot of Pastors, Priests, family and even friends have spoken about to vast amounts of people but what about forgiving yourself? Not too many times would you hear that, but that’s one of the things that hold back a lot of people in society. Because they haven’t forgiven themselves, they think that they are unworthy of doing certain things, becoming certain things and because they have this mind set and as you are all aware ‘you are what you think’ they just remain in a cycle of never improving and just being stationary in the place that they currently are at.

I definitely do not want to remain stagnant in my life, because I trust in God that there are great endeavours for me to meet and accomplish and so, through the years I have learned to forgive myself because they are times where, not just me (hehe) but all of us do things that we shouldn’t have done or that we are not necessarily proud of doing and once you get into the stage where you can’t forgive yourself it becomes hard to get out.

It’s hard to be faultless, yes of course it is, because we are surrounded with various types of tempting things on a daily basis and at times yes, we fall because we are only human but it is important to know that you should not feel as though you are unworthy of becoming whole again.

Everybody deserves more than one chance. If everything was just one take all the time then there would be no room for improvement. Many times, one does something that they are not particularly proud of; they then become swamped with guilt and end up reclining themselves, putting themselves in a corner and making themselves become sad and depressed. That’s a reaction that as humans a lot of us have become used to but it’s not right. Getting used to that sort of feeling is not going to help you move on. It’s a hard and can be at times a long process, forgiving yourself, but in order for you to move on in life it needs to be done.

We must always remember that God forgives us and if He is able to forgive us then we should be able to forgive ourselves.

One of my friends and fellow bloggers Miss Suzee-Estro Crown*, introduced me to this song and it was definitely inspiration for this blog post. The line that makes the song for me ‘teach me to be faultless’**. It’s not a one day thing at all. Day by day, we will grow stronger and be able to resist the things that can make us fall occasionally. Don’t ever think you’re worst person in earth, because you did or you do certain things that you wish you didn’t. Life is not easy, we’re all on this journey together, it’s just about learning the principles that are required to make the journey much smoother and forgiving yourself is one of them.

Thank you guys,

Be happy, stay smiling and stay blessed

xx

*http://www.SusanahEstro.wordpress.com
**http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ic8clCqkpZk

God knows the words in your heart, even though you can't say them

2010-01-20T11:40:00.001Z

There are times when it seems as though the world is just heavy on your head and that everything that shouldn’t be happening is happening to you. To make it worse it all seems to happen at the same time so you’re just bombarded with a lot of things that seem impossible at once.

Well for one, nothing is impossible, especially with God, and two, this blog is going to be about not letting your problems get on top of you, to the extent that you shrivel up and become an isolated person who loses direction and a sense of belonging in life.

When we worry and get stressed it becomes hard to think logically and rationally and things that we find relativity simple become difficult. We also tend to get irritated easily and this not only affects us but the people around us. This is because it’s usually the people closest to you that will have to deal with your mood swings, snappiness and overall negative attitude.

Of course it’s hard to be happy all the time because we are only human and things will happen in life that make us get upset, but the key thing to remember is that in all things, in all situations, in all circumstances, you are more than an overcomer. Through the things we face, we not only learn the art of patience but we learn to endure hardships and gain the experience needed to face other challenges that life will bring, because life will bring challenges.

Life is just not some nice walk in the park with your loved ones on a hot summer’s day with ice cream. No, no, no. Life is more like a theme park, filled with different rides. Rollercoaster’s, the fast spinning around ride thingy, bumper cars, the big twisty slides, even slow rides have unexpected ups and downs, for example the merry go ride /carousel ride, goes up and down unexpectedly and the even when babies go on their little elephant aeroplane rides, you hear them crying to get off. Nothing is easy. It’s just about learning to cope under the many pressures that life brings our way.

You can’t afford to shrivel up at the sign of problems. No, you can’t afford to that at all because to be successful you need to face many things and if you fail at something and then you want to give up then your success will never come about.

Some of the mottos that I’m using for myself this year include “one day at a time.” I don’t want to take on 16 different things when I know that I can only do 8 properly for the required date. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone, you’re only human like I say, don’t unnecessarily stress yourself, all high blood pressure and the rest is not needed at all.

Another motto that I’m using is “God is able”. This speaks for itself but I will reiterate. In all situations, circumstances, problems, issues, stresses, worries, everything, God is able. It may not be sorted out when you want it to be done but just know that God is able. He is able to clothe you, feed you and provide for your daily needs. Everything else that you desire and ardently want will follow, but just have the assurance that He is able

So do not worry and stress over things, life is too short to just have memories of being worked up all the time, enjoy life and the opportunities that it brings, be happy and when you see someone down, encourage them, smile at them, and pray for them. It doesn’t take a lot to do all these things.

Most importantly, when you’re stressed and you don’t know how to pray about it, don’t worry about that either because God knows the words in your heart, even if you can’t say them….

Bernie :)

2010-01-18T00:38:00.000Z

Hey...

It’s hard to do this blogging thing. Even though it’s something that I feel passionate about doing, it’s hard to just be in the right frame of mind because at the end of the day I want to write something that will both inspire and encourage you as my readers…

This just goes to say that nothing in life is easy, even if it’s something that you truly enjoy doing. All good things take hard work, and all the tears, pain and struggle that comes along with it.

The amount of times I’ve written a blog post half way and then just left it because I don’t know anymore is beyond me. I mean if one was to look at my “my documents” they’ll just see numbers of unfinished blog posts just there…

I’ve been blogging for a year now and I wasn’t even going to do it, I was so unsure that I would get any reception, my self confidence in the ability that I have was poor, but one of my friends encouraged me to do it. (God will and is blessing them abundantly)

I remember I wrote about the traffic light system and how sometimes in life we just seem to be stuck at a red light, not getting anywhere, and I just remember getting comment after comment after comment and even people that didn’t comment texted me or Facebook messaged me to say they really liked it and I was just so happy..

It’s hard to say, but it’s really important to have confidence in yourself and in your abilities because there’s only one you and even though you may be a dancer and so many other people are dancers too, only you can dance in the way you dance. (Imitation can only be done to certain extent/degree)

It’s good to have good people around you that believe in you and also in what you’re doing, because it’s the people around you that will help you to become successful. You can’t do it alone and it’s important to be aware that it’s not everyone you know that will be genuine and will want to see you succeed but that’s how one grows and learns who and who not is a true friend.

So really I just want to say that one, nothing in life is easy and you have to work for the finer and best things that you want. Two, have confidence in yourself and in your abilities. Use them to bless others and enhance yourself; don’t leave them to fade, because what you don’t practice you forget. Three, have good people around you that believe in you and your dreams, success is sweet and I don’t know about you, but I feel it’s always nicer celebrating and being happy with family and good friends around you :)

Bernie :)

Letter to my readers....

2009-12-31T03:05:00.001Z

Dear readers,

This is going to be such a personal, how I’m feeling right now blog. I have so much to get off my chest. This year has been a lot, to say the least. In my own personal life I have been tested so much, I know it’s only by the grace and love of God that I’m sane and well today.

I’m still trying to understand why certain things happened this year and I have experienced a lot of hurt, particularly by people dearest to my heart and I’m still even trying to heal from the emotional wounds but I know that by the end of this crossroads in my life, the end of this stress, the end of the tears and long walks to clear my head, I will definitely be stronger, more wiser and more able to face any other tribulation of the same sort that dares to come my way because I know exactly what I want for my life, and I know the way in which I am to get it.

I’m not even going to lie, but this year I had someone in my life that was not a positive influence on me. I told myself that they were meant to be in life, that they were going to help me to do this, that and whatever and I’m not even disputing that their not a good person, because they were, they just weren’t a good person for me.

One thing I’ve learnt is to not let your emotions control your decisions and to know the motive for which you are doing something. I have learnt the hard way and I know everything happens for a reason, but trust me I took twenty five unnecessary diversions to get to where I am now.

It’s hard but, your heart and your head say two very different things. Logic and love are two very different things which will make you make two very different decisions. Naturally, I’m such a heart person and I do most of the time let my heart make most of the decisions I’ve been faced with. Sometimes it’s been very rewarding and others it has been not so rewarding but it’s a learning curve for me and I’m learning day by day by day.

I only started blogging this year and I haven’t been a consistent blogger I must admit, but I’d rather blog and have something meaningful to say than blog everyday and have no effect on you.

I’m going to be 19 soon and that’s such a big age to me. My teen years will almost be over and I just want to be proud of the decisions I’ve made so that my sister and my little cousins have a good example to look up to. Everyone is their own person, everyone has their own conscience. It’s up to you to listen to your conscience and to live by what you choose to do.

So many good things come to those who wait. These are one of the statements that I live by. Sometimes life gets tough and if you don’t have anything to hold unto, then I don’t know to be honest, but I have my faith to hold and I may not be the best young Christian girl in the world, but I know that I try my best and whatever point of need that I am in, I know that my God will be there to meet me where I need to be met.

I’m so blessed to have certain people in my life and from the bottom of my heart I am so grateful for all the times they have been there. You never know how much a person loves you until you are in a certain situation. I will not go into depth but if you know what I’m writing about then nod your head when you’re reading this, say “girl I know what you saying” and just thank God.

This world we live in, is something else, you only know someone to the point of which they show themselves to you. I really want to build myself up this coming year and strengthen myself emotionally and spiritually, I’m ok physically…

It’s not about fifty bullet points of New Years Resolutions. No, no no. it’s about one or two specific goals you want to achieve. E.g. someone can say I want to get AAB, another person can say I want to join the Choir; another may say I really want to work on my relationship with my mum.

More satisfaction will come out of one goal achieved than 50 done only half or even one third of the way.

I’ve written so much, I could write more, but I’m just going to leave it there for now….

My readers’ thank you so much, for supporting my blog this year and thank you in advance for supporting me next year too. I wish you all an abundant New Year and for success in all endeavors of your life. Stay joyful in testing times and remember to keep strong. A smile can work miracles, a friend can wipe your tears, and no man is an island,

My love to all of you,

Bernadette xxx

UNDER CONSTRUCTION!!!

2009-12-23T11:47:00.002Z

new website currently under construction

please bear with me and my team!!!

thank you and keep smiling!!!

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Brief Introduction hehehe

2009-11-24T00:06:00.000Z

Heyyyy guysss!!!! *smile smile smile*

I know I haven’t posted in ages but I have been doing a lot of writing, thinking and preparing. The next few blogs that you will read, will be based on a fictional character and the posts do get quite intense emotionally and mentally, but by the end of whole series, as one would say, there is a message that hopefully, fingers crossed, will be relayed to you . I’ll post bits of it at one time and by the time the series is over, you’ll be aware.

I must emphasise that this series is fictional and doesn’t bear any resemblance to anyone’s life, any correlation to one’s life, however, is purely coincidental and just the way my imagination works...

I really really hope you like it! Thanks for alllll your comments on my previous blogs and all your texts telling me to post new things. The support is really helpful and God will bless you abundantly.

By the way the name of the whole story is Tears of Honey but it is split into different parts so the part that I’ll write for you is called:

Tears of Honey: The Beginning

Enjoy… the post is below this one hehehehe

Tears of Honey: The Beginning

2009-11-24T00:01:00.005Z

She walked into the room, looked around to find the person she’s been longing to find, longing to hear to hear from, longing to just catch a glimpse of for so long. She turned and turned, looked in the kitchen, the bathroom, even went upstairs looking. Of course she didn’t make it obvious to the outside world that she was looking for someone, she just styled it out, made it seem as though she was saying hi to everyone that had turned up to the house event, on the outside she had a huge smile on her face, she beamed like the sun, had on her new shiny earrings which sparkled when light hit it enabling a spectrum of rainbow colours to shine from her face. On the inside, she was desperate; hanging onto her last hope, her heart was like a balloon, freshly filled with helium, she didn’t want it to be deflated…..

Hours went by and the person she was waiting for, the person she had dressed up to see, the person who she had changed her lifestyle for, didn’t come. It was more than pain. It was more than hurt. It was more than tears. It was more than any negative emotion/feeling that she could have felt.

How did she let herself get to such a state? How? When did she become like this? When? Hanging onto another person in such a way that their presence or lack of it, in this case, could make her crumble in such a way?

She left the house. It was cold outside and the night chill stung the tears on her face. Her vision was blurred; she just saw the lights of cars and the sound of the city enjoying their Friday night out. Where was she going? We don’t know? She just wanted to get away, away from everything, away from reality, away from realising that she meant nothing to the person that meant the world to her.

Her pain suddenly turned to anger, to resentment. She hated herself so much for being who she was, for what she had become; she had lost everything, literally. She had no more hope; the balloon which was once filled was now deflated.

Beauty that once shone and made her as radiant as the sun’s rays, was now a face plastered with make up to cover who she really was. Education that was once a foundation for which she had laid well for a good future, was now a dusty mathematics textbook in the corner of her room. The relationship she had had with her family, her dad in particular, was now a grunt or stone cold gaze.

She got into a cab. 72 Eastern Rise she told the cab driver, she was on the way home to another night of sorrow and tears. She sighed, exasperated with everything. She didn’t want to live like this anymore, she didn’t want to live at all and that’s when she did it.

She didn’t know what came over her; it was just a surge of all the emotions she had been feeling for the past 3 years it just all got too much for her at that moment in time so as the cab was speeding down the road she just opened the door and put her feet on the ground.

Time seemed to speed up at this moment, she was rolling so fast on the cold, harsh road that seems so smooth when you’re in a car but certainly not when your own skin is rubbing against it. She couldn’t see anything but she could hear everything. She heard a scream, she heard the screeching of brakes, she heard footsteps running towards her.

Her heart was beating so fast, she was so scared, she thought this was it.

She lay on the road for a second or two, she got up slowly, someone tried to help her up, she screamed at them to go away, she blamed them for everything, she didn’t know them but she blamed them for everything. She got up, and started walking like normal. Didn’t even realise that her knee was dripping with blood, that her leggings had ripped and that she was limping, didn’t even realise that sleeve of her top was soaked with blood and stuck to her skin, didn’t even know that her lip had busted and her whole face was swollen.

She saw her shoe with its broken heel a few miles down the road; the cab driver had driven off. Good. She thought. At least he doesn’t pretend to care like everyone else. She picked it up and carried on walking, despite the crowd that had gathered to see what had happened.

The lady that had tried to help her up ran after her, told her to come into her house that she just lived right there. The lady pointed to an apartment. She didn’t want help, she didn’t want anyone but the tone that the lady used, a caring tone, a tone that she hadn’t heard in a while persuaded her to go. The nice lady carefully took hold of her and walked her inside.

On reaching the ladies apartment, she felt a presence she hadn’t felt in such a long time it was warm and inviting. She turned and saw her reflection in the full length mirror and she burst into tears.

to be continued....

When things don't go according to plan...

2009-09-07T14:45:00.006+01:00

A lot of stuff has happened in my life which made me realise that no matter how much you plan for certain things to happen, your future is in the hands of God and I'm not saying that planning is not good, because planning is crucial to ensure a sense of direction, stability in one's life and also security, not just in the means of protection but emotionally, financially, spiritually, "friendshiply" *hehe* (taken from KHRA), but what I really want to get across is that even though we may want certain things to happen in our lives, things don't always go according to plan and sometime we do become disappointed and disheartened and feel like there's no other option but it's all part of the bigger plan that God has for our lives.

I've had many a disappointment and I'm sure you have too but all the things that I've shed tears over have only been fleeting moments because what I got out of the situations were so much greater and gave me more joy and satisfaction.

For example, throughout my whole school life, year 7-12 I attended almost every school function I could i.e. parent's evening, dance shows, open evenings to help out, serve tea, sell tickets , I was a Library Monitor, Peer Mentor, Liturgy Representative, I was in the Jazz Band (clarinet hehe), I done soooo much and I was academically on point too because I really really really x 12,948 wanted to be Head Girl when I got to year 13.

In my school, we had to have interviews to be a candidate for Senior Prefect, and from the Senior Prefects, the Head Girl and Deputy Head Girls will be elected, so happy happy times, I passed my interview stage, had a nice little lunch with the Head Teacher and we left school for summer.

On the first day back in year 13, all the candidates got letters which informed them of the position they had been given either as a Senior Prefect or if they made Head Girl. So I got my letter and I'm all happy with my friend in the corner, really smiling, if you know me then you can imagine my excitement, praying silently "God please let me be Head Girl, I will be the best one ever, I'll be so nice to everyone, please, please, please" then I opened my envelope...

I saw congratualtions, but I still scanned the page to see "You are the new Head Girl for the school year 2008" but I didn't see it at all, so I was so confused as to why not and I looked at my friend (miss dee) to see if she got it, because one of us is better than none, but her expression told me that we both didn't get it and I was just so confused and of course extremely disappointed. Extremely.

Thinking back to it now, it's not even a big deal anymore, because the position I got was the perfect one for me, I absolutely loved it. I was a "Key Stage Three Senior Prefect" and "Key Stage Four Form Class Peer Mentor" so basicallyI got to be in charge of a set of KS3 Form classes and make sure girls from year 12 went to help them out in the morning registration and with my KS4 class, I got to see them every friday morning to sign planners, talk to them about any problems they had, I went on their retreats with them, helped them out with fundraising events, helped them organise their birthdays, told them about hairstyles, lots of stuff. It was like having 30 more little sisters and if I was Head girl, I would not have been able to have had such a close knit friendship with them, because on Friday mornings I would have had to be speaking at an assembley or something...

Now I'm off to uni in a couple of weeks and my "little sisters" are off to year 11 and I'm happy because I know I have left a good example for them to follow and one of them even called me over the weekend to say that "we miss you and thank you for all the advice you gave us and when can you come back to see us" and it was like the best feeling ever to know that you've impacted people's lives in a positive way.

Anyway just keep it in mind, as you go out in life to do whatt it is you do, that even though things don't go the way you want it to, it's because there's a better thing out there out there for you and it's just waiting for you to realise it...

God bless

Miss Bee :D

2009-08-01T17:39:00.001+01:00

hey guys...

sorry i heard that the post a comment link wasn't working but it's all fixed now! thanks :D

Home is where the heart....

2009-07-30T21:01:00.002+01:00

People, regardless of whether they would like to admit to it or not, at times change and conform to the way the world around them operates and at times the way that the world around them operates is not the way that they should live.

Q. Should they be penalised for such a thing?

A.In my opinion, no.

Q. Why?

A. “Let he without sin cast the first stone.”

I personally, don’t think they should be ostracised and treated as though they are a criminal, but that’s just me. People make mistakes, its part of the process of life. When you’re driving to a place you haven’t driven to before, even with a car navigation system, they’re going to be some wrong turnings that you make, but that doesn’t mean that you’ve ruined the whole journey, you just need to look for an alternative way of getting there.

I’m not saying that people should live making obvious mistakes that they know are wrong because that’s a different situation all together and there’s a difference between speaking quietly to a friend telling them the truth in love saying “I don’t think you should [insert thing that you thought was inappropriate], because [whatever reason you feel is adequate] and going up to them with a look of total disgust and leaving them hanging without an explanation.

Everyone’s journey is different and at times people will undergo stages in their life when they feel like they just want to lean out of the box that contains them. Their way may not always be the right way and you may not always agree but, don’t leave them because of it.

Q. Why?

A. Would you be jumping for joy if you were facing a complicated time and all your friends deserted you?

Like, ‘The Prodigal Son’ everyone knows where home is and when they want to return they will. In the mean time just keep supporting them, praying for them and being there for them. When they get back on track, they’ll thank you more than you’ll ever know... for home is where the heart is…

*smile always be happy*

Miss Bee

2009-06-06T10:55:00.001+01:00

Have you ever had someone in your life that was so close to you and who you love so much and you have a really good relationship but they continously hurt you in subconscious ways??

What did you do or what would you do?

Is it good to say that you would distance yourself from that person? Rememeber that they're close to your heart and as a friend they need you and you of course need them because everyone needs a friend and 'iron sharpens iron' as it says in Proverbs.

Would you keep on being their friend even though you're getting exasperated of the way things are?

Would you talk to them about the way you feel with the thought in mind that 'if they're really my friend, they will understand and we can sort it out.'

Think of it in terms that the other person may not have a clue what they're doing to you and your friendship is just going great at the moment and you feel as though if you say something you're just going to ruin everything....

Different issues mean different things for different people. What may be trivial to you may be a really hard situation for someone else.

Remember that what is snack for some may be a meal for others, what is a glass of water for some may be a life saving drink for others..

2009-05-28T15:55:00.000+01:00

Sometimes there are certain things that we go through that just seem so hard to face and when we’ve come face to face with a problem we know that we have to address it… at times we hide behind the fact that the problem might go away, maybe it’s just a bad day or something but when we begin to realise that the problem has manifested itself to become something of the nature that we didn’t expect and it always happens to be one of the main thoughts that come to mind in any given circumstance… that’s when we begin to worry…

Problems can come up in many different ways… people are affected by a number of different things for example making a choice without thinking it through and then having to deal with the consequences, experiencing a battle between what they believe in and what the society deems to be morally correct which inadvertently means if they lose the battle that they compromised their morality for the sake of societies.

In one of my previous blogs I wrote about how I will write on this subject and yes hehe this is that time…….

At the end of the day in regards to this particular blog entry, there is not a right or wrong answer because everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone is entitled to voice and most definitely practice their beliefs so this blog is based on a scenario which you may feel free to answer by commenting or privately in the world of your mind.

It would be great and greatly appreciated if you can comment at the end though, letting not only me, but everyone else who reads this blog know your own view on this subject matter. You never know whose comment may help someone…

Society says one thing is correct but you know in your heart that it’s not; if you then neglect your own beliefs to do the one of society does that then make you a bad person?

SCENARIO…..

You’re 19 years old, pretty female, Christian and are happy studying Social Anthropological Studies (MA) at university but the past couple of months have been extremely difficult. Not due to the fact of studying because you enjoy that and absolutely nothing to do with money or any particular family or friend issue but because you happen to feel out of place with some of your friends at university.

Recently, you have been experiencing a lot of attention from the guys on campus and there’s one particular hot hotty (heyyyy) hehe that’s happened to catch your eye. After a while you start talking and meeting on a regular basis and you he’s told you that he’s beginning to feel you and although you haven’t told him anything in reply apart from smile hehe you know that you’re beginning to like him as well…

You hate it when stuff like this happens because in your mind you don’t want to put yourself in the position of getting into a relationship because you don’t want to get tempted into having sex because there is blatantly no ‘Tiffany Engagement Ring’ on your finger,

http://www.tiffany.com/Engagement/Item.aspx?GroupSKU=GRP10001#f+0/0/0/0/0/0

But at the same time you feel like just not having to worry about any constraints or anything and just let go for a while.. Other people on campus seem to having fun and even when you do go clubs, you never drink or wine down low on guys so it shouldn’t be that bad if you just went out with him and something happened because it’s not like it’s going to be a regular occurrence….

It may seem like….. But if this was your best friend whom you absolutely love and whom you really care about their life and their future… what would you tell her if she presented you with this problem???

Situations....

2009-05-01T22:27:00.000+01:00

‘How could you do that to me, I thought you were my friend?’
‘I am your friend and I didn’t do anything to you in fact I helped you but you’re getting it all wrong’
‘No, I don’t want to listen to your excuses, I don’t care if you’re sorry, I don’t think we can be friends anymore because I can’t trust you.’
‘What?! Are you being serious? We’ve been friends for more than I can remember and you’re trying to tell me that because of this, you don’t want to be my friend anymore?’
‘Look, I’m sorry but a friendship is based on trust and if I can’t trust you then there’s no point in us being friends.’

‘I’m fed up of your attitude! You’re so ungrateful, after everything I’ve done for you; you still treat me like this. I’m not your age mate Samuel, I’m your mother!’
’but mum...’
‘No don’t you dare try and interrupt me when I’m talking. You see this is exactly what I’m talking about! Answering back. You don’t do any work around the house, you leave the house at times that please you without even having the decency to tell me where you’re going, knowing that I will be worried sick about you. I don’t know who you are anymore. You’re not the boy I gave birth to 18 years ago; you’re rude, arrogant and selfish. What kind of example are you giving to your younger brother? I’m fed up Samuel, absolutely fed up with you. Don’t even think about asking me for money. If you think you can be walking out of here like you own the house, then you can certainly fend for yourself because as of now until you change your attitude, don’t call me your mum. Now get out of my sight.’

‘Arghhhhh! I’m so stressed!’
‘What’s up hun?’
‘This whole university, exam stuff. I don’t even know what to do anymore. I can’t do this. I can’t learn these core studies, there’s too many! I don’t even care about sport psychology (kmt)’
‘Aww hun (gives hug) don’t worry, God is in control. You’ve got your uni place and you’re even lucky it’s a university that you want to go to. All you’ve got to do now is to focus. You as well as I know that you’ve got other stuff on your mind like that guy and as far as I’m concerned the most important thing is to focus on your studies because you’re building the foundation for your life. The guy can come and be a decoration later, when you’ve achieved what you’re meant to achieve. I’m not even going to say you can’t do psychology because we all know you’re like the best psychology student ever…..
‘Thanks, Nicole you’re the best… love you forever’
‘Love you too hun… Bye…’

Whatever the situation, trust in God because He ultimately knows what’s best for your life. Even if it seems hard at the time, just believe that you’ll come out stronger at the other end.’ Life is as hard as we make it. If you see you’re problems as giants then they will rule over you but if you see you’re problems as stepping stones then you will walk all over them…

God is bigger than any issue in your life

reflective.....

2009-04-16T16:18:00.000+01:00

It’s almost approaching that time where we go on study leave and the examination season begins and then *woohoo* we finish sixth form/college.

When I think back to the end of year 11, I was excited about starting the new venture of sixth form and as the end of it is drawing near, I’m really pleased I came into it with an open mind because in the two years I’ve spent at sixth form, I have not only learned a lot about myself but about other people too.

Starting at a mixed ‘institute of education’ was something that was quite interesting especially after spending 5 years at a single sex (female) *hehe* secondary school but luckily for me it didn’t take too long at all to get accustomed to the social change (work change from GCSE to A-Level French took a bit of getting used to though but that’s a totally different story….)

What’s the point I’m getting at? I don’t even know to be honest but I’m just in a reflective state of mind and I’m happy at all the choices I’ve made during sixth form.

I was faced with a lot of decisions and I’m glad that I didn’t do anything that comprised my moral values because at the end of the day I am who I am and I come with all the views and beliefs that I’ve been brought up with for the past 18 years.

(I’m not saying that I’m not open to new perspectives, because I am, that’s what life is about but I stand strong in my own values so I wouldn’t change them for frivolity. I shall touch upon this subject in an upcoming blog because I feel that it is one of importance)

Over the past two years I’ve met some wonderful people that I’m glad to call my really close friends. People that I would have never imagined talking to have become the people I text on a daily basis and these people are ones that I can be proud to say have had a positive influence in my life and will remain a part of it forever, by God’s grace.

I’ve learned that the small things you do to help people go a long way and have a big impact. Hearing the thanks for something you did that you thought was small but really made a friend’s day is beyond words.

You may not have money to buy them valuable keepsakes but you could have a picture of you and a group of your friends taken on a special day out… who said you can’t print it out and send it to them?

You may not be able to go Cinema or Nandos and have best friend days because of revision and various other plans, but you could always spend an afternoon at their house or vice versa listening to ‘Rooftop Mc’s’ on YouTube and laughing at some of the lyrics *hehehehe*

It’s hard to say but one should really try and not judge a person because regardless of the amount of issues that may be surrounding them or the things that people may say about them- you never really know them until you make that decision to be their friend.

Last couple of weeks left… make them memorable.

God bless,

miss bee

xxx

Desirable....

2009-03-24T18:18:00.000Z

So I’ve been reading a book lately (courtesy of my mum :) thank you! hehe) about general life situations and ways to deal with them and it really has helped me in more ways than one, because when people ask me for advice I just add a bit of my new ‘book knowledge’ to my ‘words of wisdom’ and pray for the best hehe.

In reading the book, I found one of the pages really useful and it was talking about the people that we choose to associate ourselves with... so that’s kind of what I’ll be writing about today... hehe

One of the most important relationships that we will ever have in our lives are the ones we have with our friends BUT truth be told, you can’t just call any ‘Shirley, Cass and Jim’ your friend hehe.

In the book, the author writes about having friends that will lift you up and not bring you down which is extremely true because unfortunately there are a lot of people who prefer to see their friends downfall rather than their successes and to be frank, those are not the kind of associates that one should call ‘a good friend’.

It’s so hard nowadays to call someone a friend let alone a best friend because of the way trust is just broken like the breaking in two of a ‘Mcvites digestive’

hehe

The author of the book also marks down what she believes after many years of life experience are the seven desirable signs of a true friend. She believes that a desirable friend must:

· Tell you the truth in love
· Give you sound advice
· Help you to become a better person
· Remain close to you even in the tough times
· Love you and stand by you even when you do stupid things

I love the way she put the word ‘desirable’ because at the end of the day, we are not perfect and as friends to our friends we should ultimately be desiring to be the bestest friends that we can be.

Personally, I can honestly say that all the people that I regard as my special close friends hold the above qualities and I’m truly grateful to have them present in my life. You may think I always talk about how grateful I am for my friendships but it’s very important to show appreciation because at the end of the day, the extra things my friends do for me they really don’t need to do...

The author also gives her perspective on signs of an undesirable friend. She believes that they:

· Don’t care if they hurt other people
· Are changeable and unstable
· Are often angry about something
· Give you bad and ungodly advice
· Do foolish things without thinking what the consequences might be

Now, of course there are times when we do foolish things, or we get angry and we can have mood swings which may cause us to be temporarily unstable and changeable, but there’s a difference between an off day or two (or week if the situation deems serious) and an off life and at times some people take advantage of the fact that they have a loving and caring friend and they end up neglecting their friend’s life and always talking about their own.

A friendship is a relationship and a relationship occurs with two or more people so when things just seem to be going one way then just a teeny weeny little bit of personal thinking time needs to be done.

I’m not saying break up the friendship- just discuss...

But yes... just you know... be the bestest friend you can be to each other, support each other in all situations, love each other very much hehe and just stick together because ultimately 'friends are the family we choose for ourselves’

Been so long....

2009-03-24T18:10:00.000Z

Sorryyyyy….

Especially to Miss. Mary who has been asking me since February 9th to write something new... There’s no suitable excuse lol but I shall begin writing again.... hehe :D:D

Bless those who curse you, bless and do not curse......

2009-02-08T12:55:00.000Z

Thank you to everyone that was jealous, and made rude comments, that you thought I couldn’t hear on my birthday but I did. God bless you.

Your public displays of jealousy just remind me that God’s doing things in my life and making me successful.

But most importantly a huge thank you to all my beautiful ladies, both inside and out, for organising my wonderful birthday surprise dinner and getting me a delicious personalised cake as well as everyone that came to celebrate with me (especially if you felt uncomfortable) and everyone who texted me, called me, gave me cards, presents, hugs, kisses, prayers and wished me well on the day.

As you have remembered me, I pray for God to continually remember you and bless you all the days if your life, giving you surplus in all that you ask for and making you succeed in everything that you do. Amen.

Lots of love Miss Bee xxxx

Trust

2009-02-08T12:54:00.001Z

Trust. One word, five letters, huge significance.

Trust is the basis of any relationship. Best friend to best friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, sister/ sister, father/ son. All the relationships that have an impact in our lives require trust. Where there is trust, one is able to feel like they belong, feel at ease, feel free and feel happy.

Once trust is broken, it takes a lot for the bridge to be rebuilt and at times unfortunately it never is.

At times in a friendship trust is tested by various stumbling blocks for example confessions of certain things, realisations of true feelings and words that were just never meant to be said.

Sometimes, in the cases when someone who you thought was your friend quite a good friend in fact that you had a degree of trust for, is using you, it can be really painful that no simile or metaphor can depict the feeling. In circumstances like this you may never find yourself trusting that person ever again but it is important to be able to forgive.

Now I know myself that is much easier said than done because at times you may just find yourself rolling your eyes or looking in disgust at the person or trying by all means to avoid them but these feelings at the end of the day are only hurting you and there is really no need to be putting yourself through unnecessary emotional distress.

When you find out that one of your closest friends, of the opposite gender, had sincere feelings for you but you never knew, it can in some friendships cause friction but if you do find that out and you discuss it with your friend and things still are fine then you know that the basis of your friendship was true and much stronger than any feelings of liking them because you are still able to maintain your friendship.

It takes a lot, especially nowadays where this world is filled with many people seeking things for their own pleasure and using any means necessary to gain it even if it includes hurting and breaking people down along the way, for one to trust someone.
So to actually find someone who is worthy to be called trustworthy in your life is an honour.

Trust is when you can tell your friend that you have indulged in something that you know you shouldn’t have done and still have the assurance that you can tell them, without the fear of being judged (even though they may give you a punch, bite, slap) and know they’ll be there to help with the emotional healing process.

Trust is telling your boyfriend that you’re going on holiday and knowing in your heart that you can leave without either of you having insecure feelings of being cheated on.

Trust is so many different things to different people but one thing that I am certain of and that we must all remember is that trust is giving all our problems, worries, anxieties and fears to God because as it says in Proverbs 3:5 ‘Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.

Hi Anonymous... :D

2009-01-22T12:58:00.000Z

I was checking my comments for ‘Dreams can come true’ and I saw this comment from Anonymous and I thought that it would be a good basis for a new post….

This is the comment:

Anonymous said...
I hate to say it but sometimes there just isn't enough room in the world for your talent or your dreams. Believing that your dreams are even remotely possible to come into fruition just sets yourself up for failure and upset.Just be content with where you are and your limitations... sometimes second best is the best.The world is full of enough uncertainty and upset to operate on the premise that your dreams can come into fruition or that your talents are able to be of use to the world.

Hi Anonymous, thank you for your comment. I respect and appreciate your opinion. :D:D

For me doing this blog was somewhat of a dream that became a reality. I wanted to start it ages ago but because of uncertain thoughts that kept coming to mind such as ‘would people like it’, ‘what if it’s not as good as I think it will be’ etc etc it was delayed until one day I just decided to just do it and even then it took a lot for me to write the first post and if my friend didn’t persuade me then who knows if I would have done it?

If I carried on thinking that way, I wouldn’t have written ‘Traffic Lights’ and I wouldn’t have known that it was as inspirational as it was to so many people.

Dreams do not have to be massive; it’s the little things that add up to make a big difference.

Look at Miss Alexandra Burke. Did she not fail to get to the live X Factor shows in 2005? If she didn’t decide to come back for a second chance, would she have won X Factor 2008 and gained a Christmas number 1?

Yes it’s good, very good in fact, to be content and grateful for where we are because some people don’t even have the opportunity to think of achieving their dreams but we do, so why miss out on the opportunity?

Yes, ‘the world [may] be full of uncertainty and upset’ but if that becomes the means as to which your life is driven then one might as well just live a life where chances they are given just pass by them for fear of being rejected.

Going back to my St. Angela’s days, ‘you are the author of your own life’, and really and truly, it’s your own decision as to the ways you want your life to go, regardless of any advice you’ve sought along the way, because only you can what you want to do.

So yes… My friend anonymous please don’t ever settle for being second best because you truly are not, regardless of anything, you’re not and I’m not too sure of your religious stance because I’m not sure who you are, but I’m a Christian and I feel these verses would support what I’m trying to say.

You don’t have to read them… and I’ll post the link of a song as well as the link for the lyrics because they kind of match too… :D:D

Mark 10:27
Luke 1:37
Philippians 4:13

God bless :D:D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9quF_O9InI

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/marymary/cantgiveupnow.html

Dreams can come true...

2009-01-20T23:05:00.000Z

Like the title says ‘dreams can come true’ it’s just a matter of realising what your dreams are and not pushing them aside thinking you’re unworthy of them but fulfilling them and living the destiny you were meant to.

Every one, regardless of colour, intellect, gender or past is blessed with talents but it is time for people to know that because they performed so and so action in so and so year that they are not able to do so and so thing, because it does not mean that at all. You are a person of influence and ‘your extended hand could help someone with a clenched fist.’

Everyone has different talents and gifts and I’m sure that you have heard that if every single person had the same talents then the world will not be as varied as it is today because of the simple reason that: everyone is unique.

Yes, two people can have the same gift of singing but Miss H cannot sing and minister to people in the same way as Miss L does, and yes two people can act but Mr P will have strength of acting that Mr Y does not have.

Too often, we are trapped in comparing ourselves to the people that have the same gifting as us and feel as if we are not good enough. This mindset doesn’t make us achieve to the best of our ability does it?

Once we begin thinking these thoughts about ourselves, we start creating a web of insecurity, low self esteem and lies and the more we think of these thoughts, the more we entangle ourselves and the harder it is to get out.

You are not a spider- don’t make a web (hehe)

At the end of the day, if you love to write then make your words be like music to the soul, if you love to take photographs then capture the moments people long to see and if you love to smile then smile with that extra added 'special touch' that can make someone’s day.

The world is full to the brim of talents don’t make it suffer by not seeing the potential of yours because as Mahatma Gandhi says ‘you must be the change you want to see in the world’ and as homage to Mr Barack Hussein Obama, think of it from his perspective:
He believed that the 'challenges of the world cannot be solved unless we come together' and because he stuck to his belief he has an opportunity to make his dream come true.

We’re all stars but it’s up to you whether you want to shine….

Flowers of friendhsip...

2009-01-15T09:49:00.000Z

Imagine you’re a florist and you absolutely love your job! So you go to work one day and you decide to plant some new seeds of your favourite type of flower...

After nurturing the seeds with water, making it grow in the correct conditions with the right amount of ‘sunshine’ (hehe) they grow into beautiful flowers and when you see them every day you feel a sense of joy and pride because you helped to make them grow…

Then one day a couple come in to buy those specific flowers that you’ve just grown and as it’s the nature of your job: you sell it to them and although you feel a bit sad to see your pride and joy leave, you’re happy because you know that the same sort of joy you felt when seeing those flowers will now be an even greater sense of joy for the person who is to receive them…

This can be compared to friendship…

Some flowers last forever in your life, becoming your ‘shining stars’, whilst others, like the story of the florist, are in your life for only a season…

In each friendship you have it’s important to be able to plant a seed into their life whether by being the shoulder they need to cry on, the smile they see in the midst of hard times, an understanding person when you can't come to their house, the person that recieves 5000 texts of randomness or just simply being the people they know they can dance and pretend to be Danity Kane with.. hehe

Once a seed has been planted it’s hard for it to become uprooted and the person, regardless of whether they were a season or lifelong friend, will remember you forever!!

Sometimes it can be hard to see our season friends go but at times we have to let the people that we love go and be a blessing of joy and shining stars in someone else’s life...

So let us all remember to:

Love our friends, appreciate our friends and also pray for our friends because they are our angels on earth..

All love and appreciation out to my girlies and my guys too!! God bless you and grant all your heart's desires!! : D: D

Traffic Lights... W.O.W 1 (Words of Wisdom 1)

2009-01-12T20:26:00.000Z

Heyhey!! :D:D

If you come Christian Union (Wednesdays St. Angela’s school chapel, lunchtimes) then you’re used to my lovely little stories and you’re used to my traffic light system but if you don’t then I’m going to explain anyway hehe…

You’re cruising down the road, feeling happy in your nice car, music playing etc and there are no traffic lights in sight but all of a sudden you’re faced with a diversion.

This isn’t what you’ve planned, it’s not been registered on Mr. Tom-Tom either, but now you’re faced with a decision that you need to make.

Do you just turn back and give up because you don’t know the way from here on and you’re scared of taking the diversion route because you don’t know were you’ll be, even though you know you’ll end up getting back on track, OR do you take the diverted route?

Too many times in life, when faced with a diversion, many people seem to just give up all together, not realising that in life obstacles must come because it is only through the obstacles we face that we feel a greater sense of achievement once reaching our destinations.

Red lights will always come in life, particularly at the times when things have been going so well but does that mean we should just stop and turn back? NO! Of course not.

If you have been accustomed to just staying at the red light when it comes up on you, then this is your time to just find the nearest Jet petrol station, refill your tank and just start going again…

There’s so much life has to offer, so just don’t have a pity party in your car, drive along and see the opportunities for you!!